Why escort ruined dating for us – with Irina Le Fey

Two women who’ve seen behind the curtain sit down to talk about the thing nobody in this industry warns you about: what happens to your private dating life when work keeps raising the bar. Irina le Fey is back – former goldsmith, sociologist, agency founder, professional huntress a and this time, we’re not talking about clients. We’re talking about us. About gender roles reclaimed and confused, the provider question, what women actually bring to the table when kids aren’t part of the equation, and whether one person could ever give you what this job does. We disagree. A lot. Irina believes in the fairytale and is willing to stop escorting for it. Elisa believes in the fairytale and is absolutely not willing to stop escorting for it. Somewhere between those two positions, something very honest happens – about desire, self-worth, and the strange paradox of an industry that makes you feel incredibly chosen while making normal dating feel like a punishment. One question neither of us had been asked quite this directly before: Are you actually happy? The answers might surprise you. Keep your hands clean. But your mind dirty.

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Irina Le Fey

Leipzig & Frankfurt

Irina le Fay is a goldsmith, sociologist, agency founder, escort – and, most recently, a huntress. No accident, no detour. A woman who knows exactly what she wants, and has been living proof of that for over a decade.

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